SSRScientific and Social Research2661-43322981-9946Bio-Byword Scientific Publishing Pty. Ltd.10.26689/ssr.v7i6.11066ArticleChanges in Relationships and the Integration of the Self: A Study on Self-Awareness and Growth Based on Object Relations Theory and Emotion- Focused Therapy (EFT)https://artdesignp.com/journal/SSR/7/6/10.26689/ssr.v7i6.11066LiuGuizhen,HeXiaoyi2025762025-06-13This study explores the psychological adaptation process of individuals in changing relationships, integrating object relations theory and emotion-focused therapy (EFT) to provide both theoretical analysis and practical insights. The case study focuses on Michi (pseudonym) and her emotional fluctuations in workplace relationships, revealing how psychological mechanisms such as projective identification, true self and false self, and the paranoid-schizoid and depressive positions influence individuals’ perceptions of relationships and emotional regulation. The study finds that Michi experienced a psychological transition from anxiety and anger to self-awareness and emotional regulation as she faced the promotion of her colleague and the changes in their relationship. Her initial emotional turmoil stemmed from high expectations of attachment and manifested as projective identification and control needs. As she engaged in self-exploration, she employed EFT techniques such as emotional experience and the empty-chair work to conduct an internal dialogue, ultimately achieving a renewed understanding and integration of her emotional patterns, relational expectations, and self-stability. Theoretical analysis suggests that psychological distress in changing relationships is not only influenced by external environmental changes but also significantly shaped by internal object relation patterns and self-stability. Through EFT’s emotion-focused interventions, individuals can more effectively identify and transform maladaptive emotional patterns, thereby enhancing psychological flexibility and autonomy in the face of relational changes. The study emphasizes that the core of psychological growth lies not in controlling external relationships but in the stability and integration of the inner self. It also provides theoretical and practical guidance for workplace relationship adjustment, emotional management, and psychological counseling.

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